Transforming Attachment + Expectation In Relationships

with Guy Finley


Our Guest

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Guy Finley

Spiritual Author & Teacher

Guy Finley is the bestselling author of more than 45 books and audio albums on self-realization, including “The Secret of Letting Go,” “The Essential Laws of Fearless Living,” and his brand new book “Relationship Magic: Waking Up Together.” He is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit Center for Spiritual Discovery located in southern Oregon where he gives talks three times each week.

Guy is a faculty member at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York, 1440 Multiversity, and is a regular expert contributor to Beliefnet and the Huffington Post. For more information about his new book visit

The Talk

At last an episode about a much sought after topic – relationships 🙂

To tackle this behemoth I invited on one of the foremost spiritual authors in the world – Guy Finley – to speak about his new book Relationship Magic.

At the centre of his book is the idea that relationships are mirrors for our own lives, that all conflict exists to teach us, and that things break down when we don’t take radical ownership of our own projections.

He argues the #1 reason why relationships fail is that they are built upon a form of love that you are intended to outgrow.

Said differently, the initial love that brings two people together isn’t intended to be the love that holds it together.

Sure, it’s quite possible that the initial attraction and desire will remain, even as the relationship progresses. But it makes very little difference because it’s an altogether higher form of love that is intended to become the foundation of that relationship.

Now think for just a moment what this means. It means you don’t have to struggle to restore your relationship to the way it felt before things got tough. There’s another way.

In this episode we cover:

  • The nature of attachment
  • Early love vs late love
  • Dying and being reborn in love at the same time
  • Handling projection with care and compassion
  • Self forgiveness
  • What it takes to be married for 40 years
  • The secret to successful love


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